You are the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with

  • Date posted: 16 Nov 2016
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“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”


If any of you are Tony Robbins or Jim Rohn fans you may have heard of this theory before. But what does it really mean?

Sit back and think about this for a moment. Last week, who were the 5 people that you spent the most time with? Do you want to be the average of those 5 people or do you want to be more?

Do these 5 people inspire you, push you to succeed, and motivate you to perform to your full potential? Or do they drag your mood down, fill you with negativity, and make you count down the hours to when you no longer have to put up with them?

When you get home from work, do you speak highly of these people to your friends and family, or do you spend your down-time moaning about how much they annoy you?


What can this mean for your performance?

In a nutshell, the 5 people you spend most time with are either stretching you to be more, giving you permission to settle for average, or worst of all, dragging you down to their level. Like it or not, the way that these 5 people operate, think, behave and communicate is having an impact on you. This, in turn, affects your behaviour, your belief in what is possible and your ability to clone shortcuts to success. Little by little you become what you surround yourself with.


What do you want to become?

So how do you know if you’re around the right people? Wel,l it starts with identifying how you want to be, how you want to live your life and what you want to achieve. Now which 5 people best represent these things to you? Surrounding yourself with people that have what you want will allow you to copy their strategies, think like them and become like them. So you must identify the top 5 people you should be around, and go spend time with them. Whether they are friends, colleagues or people you ask to spend time with as mentors, it doesn’t matter. Just find opportunities to be around them.


The Ultimate Top 5

Can you imagine what your life would be like if you spent most of your time with Richard Branson, Mark Zuckerberg, Arianna Huffington, Barack Obama and Taylor Swift? Would you access strategies for success? Network with people that could help you? Gain support and help? Start to believe that if they can do it so can you? The answer, of course, is YES.


Finding your top 5
So ok, these are pretty aspirational people so let’s start somewhere a little more realistic. Who are your top billers? Who do you admire in your leadership team? What successful business people do you or your circle of family & friends know? Make a list – you have access to great people already and guess what? Most people will spend time with you. Ask to buy them lunch so you can talk to them. Most people will respond. Ask people to mentor you – you’d be surprised at how many say yes.


Out of options?

If you really can’t find examples of inspirational people around you then you definitely need to find a new place to work – so get in touch with us to discuss options where you can join a culture of success with great mentors.


It’s not fixed

Either way, whether you have 5 people already or you need to go find them, if you adopt this rule you will ensure you are always growing and developing. Keep reassessing who your key 5 people should be as you shape, change or improve your end goals.

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